What Legal Safeguards Exist to Prevent Abuse of Domestic Violence Restraining Orders?
I am a divorce and family lawyer. So I know that there are laws on the books in my jurisdiction (Utah) and in other jurisdictions throughout the U.S. that make…
The Overreach of Utah Courts in Ordering Therapy in Divorce and Child Custody Cases
In contemporary Utah divorce and child custody disputes, courts frequently order parents and children to participate in reunification therapy, family systems therapy, or other forms of therapy and counseling. While…
How Do I Know If My Custody Evaluator and Custody Evaluation Are Any Good? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
In your divorce case, you, your spouse (or other parent) and your children may be required to undergo a custody evaluation. The custody evaluation is governed by Utah Code of Judicial Administration Rule…
Should You File an Appeal in Your Divorce Case, If You Are Not Happy with the Result at Trial? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
There are a few things that you should be aware of before you decide to pull the trigger on filing an appeal on the outcome of your divorce trial. First,…
If My Ex-husband Quit His Job to Avoid Alimony Does He Still Have to Pay Alimony?
If a spouse (husband or wife) is ordered by the court to pay alimony but then quits his/her job and then tries to claim “I can’t pay alimony because I…
Wallace v. Wallace – 2024 UT App 164 – Custody, Non-disparagement
Wallace v. Wallace - 2024 UT App 164 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS JAMES DOUGLAS WALLACE, Appellee, v. JOANNA JUNE WALLACE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220559-CA Filed November 15, 2024 Third…
Child Support in Utah
How is child support calculated in Utah? How long does child support last? How is child support enforced? How child support in Utah is calculated. I will explain it both…
How Much or How Little of a “Bulldog” Does a “Good Divorce Lawyer” Have to Be? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Everyone has seen the movies and shows where a lawyer represents his/her client (in and out of court) like a berzerker. We have heard of the horror stories of innocent…
Calculating Alimony in Utah Divorce Cases
Alimony is not purely a mathematical formula in Utah, but the governing section of the Utah Code (see Section 81-4-502. Determination of alimony) does relay on some basic addition, subtraction, and division. First,…
Should You Use Utah’s Court-created Forms? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
The Utah courts have created a sizeable library of forms; a few that everyone is required to use, and a lot that can be used--optional, in other words--if one wants.…
Lunt v. Lunt – 2024 UT App 148 – Alimony, Individual Needs, Business Goodwill
Lunt v. Lunt - 2024 UT App 148 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MEGAN LUNT, Appellee, v. DREW E. LUNT, Appellant. Opinion No. 20220596-CA Filed October 18, 2024 Third District…
I Know I Should Get a Divorce, but I Don’t Have the Courage to Do So. What Do I Do Now?
We are not meant to be alone. We are meant to be married and to have a family. This is why losing/ending a marriage (and breaking up a family, if…
How Is It to Divorce When You Get Retired?
Usually painful. Perhaps in some ways that are a little different from the pain one would suffer when divorcing young, but still painful. Retirees suffer a unique pain in the…
How Do I Reconnect After Marriage Separation?
Believing that change is inevitable, normal, and survivable. Jonny Thomson made this reel on his Facebook page, “Mini Philosophy,” which I think answers your question about as well as it…
What Are Some Strategies for Divorcing a Selfish, Intelligent, and Manipulative Person Without It Becoming a Messy Legal and Emotional Battle?
Spouses of selfish, intelligent, and manipulative people who want to avoid a messy legal and emotional battle are not telling the whole truth about what they want. Implicit in what…
I Have a Question About Whether to Divorce.
I decided to divorce my husband of 10 years after years of neglect and feeling unloved. We have a 6-year-old daughter. For the majority of our marriage I was always…
When Should You Settle Your Divorce Case? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Over the course of your divorce, you may be tempted to throw in the towel and give up. You may also be tempted to fight to your last breath. Either…
Two Reforms (Of Many) That I Suggest Are Likely Not What You Think They Would Be.
In my opinion (as a divorce and family law attorney for the past 27 years), a “less is more” approach is needed at this point. What do I mean? For…
If I Got Married Today and My Husband Moved Into My House, if We Get Divorced in 5 Years, Will I Have to Give Him 50% of My House?
Great question (the answer will likely scare you and drive you nuts, but it’s a great question). Divorce court is, in many respects, the wild west. No matter what jurisdiction…
Dividing Personal Property In Your Divorce Is Not As Hard As It Seems By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
During the course of a marriage, you will accumulate marital property, and during your divorce, you will need to divide those items. You may be tempted to bicker over every…
How Do You Enforce Court Orders That Have Been Issued in a Utah Divorce Case or Child Custody Case?
Many people who have gone through a divorce case or unmarried parents who have gone through a child custody case find themselves at the end of the case with a…
What Are Some Reasons Why Someone Might Choose to Stay in an Unhappy Marriage Instead of Getting a Divorce, Even if They Have Children and Are Concerned About the Cost?
There are literally thousands of lists you can find online that do an excellent job of identifying the reasons accurately, clearly, and concisely. I recommend that you find them and…
How to Fill Out Your Financial Declaration, Paragraph Five. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Paragraph five of your financial declaration is about the amount of taxes on your monthly income that you pay per month (or what the average monthly deduction from your income…
My Spouse Refuses Divorce but I Need to Be Divorced. My Spouse Says He/She Will Make My Life and the Kids’ Life Hell if I Leave. I Don’t Want to Spend a Fortune on a Lawyer.
Are you a churchgoer? Are you a member of a church? If so, your church may have resources available to members to help them with various legal concerns or problems.…
If My Ex Husband Had a Secret Bank Account Before We Were Married, Would I Be Entitled to Some of It After the Divorce? I Already Have a Private Investigator Looking Into It. Thanks in Advance!
This is an area where the laws differ substantially from jurisdiction to jurisdiction. To know what options may be available to you in your jurisdiction, you need to consult with…
What Is Dissipation of Marital Assets? How Is It Addressed in Utah Divorce Actions?
We’ll start with this: The marital estate is generally valued at the time of the divorce decree or trial. Goggin v. Goggin, 2013 UT 16, ¶ 49, 299 P.3d 1079. The…
How to Fill Out Your Financial Declaration, Paragraph One. By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
If you find yourself involved in a Utah divorce action (whether child support will be an issue or not) or an action over the support of minor children in Utah…
Are You Fighting for Your Kids or Are You Protecting Your Financial Future? By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
An accusation that gets thrown around a lot in a divorce action is that a parent doesn’t actually want to spend time with his or her children. Usually it's an…
What Should I Do if My Divorce Is Not Getting Solved Quickly?
This is a great question. Go find a good (a good, not just any) retired divorce attorney (a divorce attorney, not some other kind of attorney who has no idea…
Elder v. Elder – 2024 UT App 68 – enforcement vs. modification
Elder v. Elder - 2024 UT App 68 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BRITTANY LEE ELDER, Appellee, v. MATT BLAKE ELDER, Appellant. Opinion No. 20210902-CA Filed May 9, 2024 Second…
Is It Common for Ex-spouses to Continue Supporting Each Other Financially and Emotionally After a Divorce? What Are Some Potential Solutions for This Situation?
See parent question. I am a divorce lawyer, and after a divorce case ends (meaning a decree of divorce has been issued and case essentially closed), I literally never know…
Is There Anything I Can Do for Winning Custody After the Gal Report Is Favoring My Ex? Is Paying More to My Attorneys Worth It or No?
After you ask, “Is there anything I can do for winning custody after the GAL report is favoring my ex? Is paying more to my attorneys worth it or no?,”…
2024 UT App 54 – Tilleman v. Tilleman – custody factors, income, fees
2024 UT App 54 - Tilleman v. Tilleman THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS MICHAEL ROBERT TILLEMAN, Appellant, v. MICHAL CHRISTINE TILLEMAN, Appellee. Opinion No. 20210637-CA Filed April 11, 2024 Fourth…
You Reap What You Sow.
I’m Braxton Mounteer, a legal assistant. I've written and talked about this problem before, but it's a recurring problem and a serious one. It's hard enough to muster the courage…
McFarland v. McFarland – 2024 UT App 31 – attorney’s fees awards
McFarland v. McFarland - 2024 UT App 31 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS BRUCE RAY MCFARLAND, Appellee, v. NICOLE S. MCFARLAND, Appellant. Opinion No. 20221044-CA, Filed March 14, 2024 Second District…
Can Child Support (Whether Prospectively or Retrospectively) Be Waived by the Child Support Payee?
The easiest of these two questions to answer is the second one, i.e., “Can child support be waiver retrospectively by the child support payee? The answer is yes, if the…
Is Court-Ordered Therapy Over-Used? By Braxton Mounteer, legal assistant.
Whether you believe that everyone needs (or could benefit from) therapy or that it is only for the most dysfunctional families, you, like most people, likely agree some therapy has…
Why Hiding Your Money in a Divorce and/or Child Support Court Case Won’t Work (and why people still try) By Braxton Mounteer
When those who will be ordered to divide assets with a spouse and/or pay child and/or spousal support (alimony) confront the matter, many try to lie about and to misrepresent their…
Why won’t courts test competing custody and parent-time proposals during the pretrial phase of a case?
Do you want to know where the real money is most often made in divorce and family law cases? Child custody and parent-time disputes, hands down. Rarely do the parents…
How much does a parent have to pay in child support? What is the legally set amount?
Some people believe that child support is the same for all parents. They believe that every parent who is ordered to pay child support pays the same amount of money…
Why Hiding or Misrepresenting Your Income in a Divorce and/or Child Support Court Case Won’t Work (and why people still try) By Braxton Mounteer
When those who realize they may be ordered to pay child and/or spousal support (alimony) confront the matter, many try to lie about and to misrepresent their income in the hope…
Family Law Legislation for the 2024 Utah State Legislative Session
Here is a list of the current proposed family law legislation for the 2024 Utah State Legislative session, along with a (very) brief description of the proposed legislation. If you…
Parenting before, during, and divorce litigation By Braxton Mounteer, Legal Assistant
Divorce is already hard enough on the parties involved, but it is even harder on the children of the recently separated family. I speak as a child of divorce, who…
What happens to joint credit cards when you divorce?
In the jurisdiction where I practice divorce law (Utah), the law is NOT that joint debt incurred during the marriage will presumptively remain the debt of both spouses (and thus…
How to prepare for a consultation with a lawyer By Braxton Mounteer, legal assistant
You have just been served with a summons and complaint (or petition) for divorce. Now have to traverse the minefield that is finding a good divorce attorney. It's harder to find a…
I Can Prepare a Prenuptial Agreement for You, but With Rare, Particular Exception, I Advise Against It.
Most attorney websites that contain “articles” on prenuptial agreements aren’t really articles but thinly veiled sales pitches for prenuptial agreements. This post is not one of those. I have always…
How do I enforce my husband’s promise to hire an attorney for me in our divorce?
If by this question you mean to state that your husband told you he would pay for your attorney in the divorce action between the two of you, that could…
What happens in court if I file for divorce but my husband has an active case on me for child support? Will I get the child?
Whether you “get the child” (meaning whether you will be awarded physical custody of the child) has little to no relevance to the fact that your spouse is seeking child…
Dirty Tricks to Watch Out for in Divorce
I often encounter sneaky spouses who after separation and/or after a divorce action has been filed, start sending text messages and emails to the other spouse making false claims like:…
How does filing for divorce affect relationships with family members and friends who don’t agree with the decision? Do people tend to choose sides?
How does filing for divorce affect relationships with family members and friends who don't agree with the decision? Poorly, generally. That should come as no surprise. Do people tend to…