How Can I Win Custody of My Son if I Haven’t Been There for Him for Ten Years?
About the only ways I can realistically imagine? The child’s other parent: - is dead; or - is unfit to be entrusted with the care and custody of the child.…
Is There a Way to Get Legal Action on Child Support for Free?
That does not bode well for you, if in fact the child will be in the courtroom at the same time you and the judge assigned to your case are…
If a Mom Is Abusing Her Children, and the Dad Doesn’t Want Sole Custody Because Child Support Is Cheaper, What Can the Court Do?
Thank you for your question, and forgive me for approaching this question in a way that may not answer your question as directly as it could be; I hope you…
Can You Win a Custody Battle Without an Attorney?
Can you? Meaning: is it possible? Of course it’s possible. Likely? That depends. I had written over 500 words in my first draft of the answer to this question when…
What Happens in a Custody Case Where Both Parents Try to Alienate the Child From the Other Parent and the Rest of Their Family?
My guess is that this question applies in two distinct contexts: 1) what does the court do in a child custody case where both parents try to alienate the child from the…
How Do You Prove Parental Alienation in a Child Custody Case?
Usually rarely and with great effort and difficulty. Why? I have written other responses to this question and questions like it, so my answer here will be more concise than…
In Re J.E. 2023 UT App 3, Voluntary Declaration of Paternity
2023 UT App 3 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STATE OF UTAH, IN THE INTEREST OF J.E., A PERSON UNDER EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE. D.E., Appellant, v. STATE OF UTAH,…
Can You File for Defamation While a Custody Battle Is Pending?
I cannot speak to what the law is in all jurisdictions, but I can answer this question as it applies in the jurisdiction where I practice divorce and family law…
If You Have Sole Physical Custody, Does That Mean Your Ex Can’t Take Your Child Out of State Without Your Permission?
I can't speak for what the law is in all jurisdictions, but I can tell you what the law is in the state of Utah, and how the law applies…
What Happens if I Get Married to Someone With Kids Then Get Divorced? Do I Get To See the Kids?
I cannot speak to what the law is and how it is applied in every jurisdiction, but I can answer this question on this topic as it applies to the…
After a Marital Breakup, Only One Parent Can Properly Raise the Children, With the Other Parent Entitled Merely to Visiting Rights, but Could There Be a Better Alternative?
You’ve picked a good topic of discussion, but your question is poorly phrased. Your claim that only one parent can properly raise children after a marital breakup is false. Not…
Is It Good to Decide to Be a Single Father?
Only if it’s worse for the child to be reared by both his/her father and mother because the mother is unfit or an irremediable danger to the child. Kids deserve…
Can a Mother Keep Her Children From Her Separated Husband Until Court in Utah?
This is something of an intentionally gray area in the law, but that’s no reason or invitation to abuse it. Many don’t realize that a parent cannot kidnap his or…
Are That there is a Bias Against Men/Fathers in Child Custody Disputes Just Whining?
Are claims that there is a bias against men/fathers in child custody disputes just whining? No. Such claims are true and while the problem is slowly abating, it still needs…
Is 50/50 custody likely when the parents live in the same neighborhood?
What is the likelihood of reverting to 50/50 custody when the parents live in the same neighborhood? Mom still cares for the child over 80% Your question states in part,…
My children’s father is a bum. Can he get 50/50 custody awarded?
The question is: I’m a stay at home mom, my BD is always working unreliable and inconsistent hours, he wants 50% custody of our son. Will he be granted 50%?…
How Often Does One Parent Get Sole Custody of Their Children in a Custody Case?
Good question. A generation or two ago, it was all but unheard of for parents to be awarded joint physical custody of their children. It was literally unthinkable in the…
What happens when the child violates the custody and parent-time agreement and court orders?
One of the increasingly worst kept secrets in Utah divorce and child custody law is the fact that after a certain age, minor children are essentially ungovernable when it comes…
I am looking for advice. I want to fight for full child custody. What do I need to know before moving forward?
All you need to know regarding what your first steps should be is this: determine whether you have a winning case for being awarded full or sole custody of the…
If a father is working full time and is expecting to get 50/50 custody, how does he arrange for the kids when he is at work from 9-5 p.m.?
If a father in this position can’t figure this out on his own, he’s probably not in a position to be entrusted with exercising 50/50 custody. If a father wants…
Thayne v. Thayne – 2022 UT App 122 – Change of Circumstances
2022 UT App 122 THE UTAH COURT OF APPEALS STEPHANIE THAYNE, Appellee, v. DEVIN THAYNE, Appellant. Opinion No. 20200598-CA Filed November 3, 2022 Second District Court, Ogden Department The Honorable…
Do family courts favor mothers?
While there are some judges, perhaps even some jurisdictions, that are outliers, the answer to your question is: generally yes, no question about it. While the preference for and…
What does temporary custody without prejudice mean?
It means that the child custody order is a temporary, as opposed to a permanent and final, order of the court. Why would a court enter a temporary child custody…
Can being a noncustodial parent improve the child-parent relationship?
Can being a noncustodial parent improve the child’s relationship with the noncustodial parent? Recently, a reader on Quora, where I comment regularly, commented on a post of mine with this: …
Child refuses to exercise shared custody with the stricter parent
Teenager Child (16) refuses to see me after spending a month with my ex. I have 50% custody. What can I do about it? I'm a stricter parent unlike my…
Why is it so easy to get married, and so hard to get divorced?
Why is it so easy to get married, and so hard to get divorced? Shouldn’t it be the other way around? This is a perceptive question. It would not not…
What are the primary parenting issues of concern by the court?
What are the primary concerns of the courts in determining parenting issues? Why? In Utah (and in no particular order), the court must consider the factors articulated in these sections…
What can you do if your ex-husband does not want to pay school fees?
What can you do if your husband does not want to pay school fees for his children when you are divorced? First, it is not necessarily a given that a…
Do you think it’s fair for a non-custodial parent to pay more child support?
Do you think it's acceptable for the non-custodial parent to have to pay more child support because the custodial parent chooses to barely work or not work at all? Generally,…
Are there experts who can evaluate parental alienation for a custody case?
There are “expert” witnesses for virtually any and every issue in legal actions. Can judges be bamboozled by pseudo-scientific expert witnesses? Without question. Do some judges who know that the…
Can a parent with full custody deny visitation due to unsanitary conditions?
Can a parent with full custody refuse to allow visitation due to unsanitary living conditions? Good question. I will answer this question in the context of some applicable law for…
Can a 16-year-old child choose not to have visitation with a parent?
Technically, no. Practicably/pragmatically, yes. Technically, a minor child (even a child of 16 years of age) does not have the legal right to choose whether he or she will comply…
Is it possible to get court transcripts for custody hearings?
Every jurisdiction is different regarding which court hearings are open to the public and whether recordings of their proceedings are available to the public or even to the parties’ themselves. …
Can I gain full custody if I’m bipolar?
I don't want anything to do with my child's father. Can I gain full custody if I'm bipolar? First, thank you for being so candid and blunt. This is a…
What are the primary concerns in determining parenting issues? Why?
What are the primary concerns of the courts in determining parenting issues? Why? In Utah (and in no particular order), the court must consider the factors articulated in these sections…
If each parent is fully capable, will the court still give full custody to mom?
If both parents are wonderful, will the court still lean towards full custody to the mother? [Note: I am a divorce lawyer of 25 years. I am not bitter about…
Why would a father give a child’s abusive mother full custody?
Why would a father whose attorney had outed his children's mother as a schizophrenogenic narc monster give her full custody? “Give?” If the father had it within his power to…
Can a non-custodial parent claim the child tax credit?
Yes, and the IRS has provided this summary (among other publications) to show non-custodial parents how: https://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p4449.pdf Here is an excerpt from that IRS publication: Claiming Your Child as a…
How does someone take custody of a child after winning custody?
When someone wins custody of a child, does the child come to the courthouse to be taken by whoever is awarded custody or do they go to the home of…
What is the proper way to request a change of the child custody order?
What is the proper language to request a change of the child custody order in family law court? What you want to accomplish is not the kind of thing that…
How can I reveal my soon-to-be ex as having NPD in our custody case?
How can I reveal my soon-to-be ex as having NPD in our child custody case? You're asking the wrong question. You shouldn't be asking how you can prove your spouse…
How would my fiancé go about getting any sort of custody for his child?
That is an extremely broad question. The best way to start: find a good domestic relations lawyer (a good one, not just any) and schedule a consultation with him/her so…
What will happen if the child refuses to go with the custodial parent?
What will happen if the court ruled in favor of a mother to have the custody of her child but the child refuses to go with her and she prefers…
How can I help my stepdaughter get away from an abusive mother?
How can I help my 12-year-old step daughter get away from an emotionally abusive mother? Tell the child’s father (your husband) about the trouble and have him handle it. It’s…
Is appointing a guardian ad litem helpful in custody cases?
Is appointing a guardian ad litem a positive tool to help with custody cases? [I will respond to your question based upon my experience with guardians ad litem in Utah,…
What are the chances of a mother getting full custody?
In my experienced opinion: If the fight is over which parent will be awarded sole (full) custody of the children, and if no other factors are considered: the chances of…
How will it affect children to switch schools every other school year?
How will it affect children to switch back and forth to schools every other school year due to child custody agreement between parents who live in different states? Probably not…
If both parents are wonderful, will the court still favor the mother?
If both parents are wonderful, will the court still lean towards full custody to the mother? [Note: I am a divorce lawyer of 25 years. I am not bitter about…
What is the argument for hearing a child’s view in a custody decision?
What argument supports taking the views of a child into account when making custody determination? The argument is this: the judge cannot determine if such evidence is relevant if the judge never…
I’m 14 and my mom is making me live with my dad. How do I stop this?
I'm 14 and my mom is making me live with my dad and is giving him custody. What can I do to prevent this from happening? I’m a divorce and…