Many reasons can account for this (in no particular order of prevalence):
- Bitterness/Sore loser
- Revenge/trying to set themselves up for a second bite at the apple in a future petition to modify the decree
- Mental illness or emotional disorders
- A belief that that’s how divorced people are expected to act toward their ex-spouses.
But sometimes (sometimes, not always) it’s not the ex-spouse who is the problem, it’s you. It’s you seeing the world through “woes”-colored glasses such that you perceive your spouse’s normal, reasonable behavior as spiteful, petty, and vindictive when in fact your ex is not. Indeed, you may be the spiteful, petty, and vindictive who is simply projecting—falsely—those very same feelings and intention onto your spouse. It’s easy in the aftermath of a divorce to ascribe malicious intent to your ex. Check yourself before you do.
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