Believing that change is inevitable, normal, and survivable.
Jonny Thomson made this reel on his Facebook page, “Mini Philosophy,” which I think answers your question about as well as it can be answered:
So much about being human is growing used to things. We get used to how a room is laid out, for example. But most importantly, we get used to other people. We get used to seeing certain colleagues at work or certain friends at the weekend. For a great many people, we get used to love. We spent all of our days around one particular person that our minds almost seemed to merge. We choreograph our behaviors to match the dance of our partner, and life becomes a symbiosis. But often in life we have to fall out of love. It might be a breakup or a bereavement, but sometimes we have to learn to adapt to the world again. This is an example of what the philosopher Amy Harbin calls a “disorientation experience.” Harbin defines disorientation as a “major life experience that makes it difficult for individuals to know how to go on.” Many things can bring on disorientation. It might be coming out as gay, a debilitating illness, the death of a parent, or falling out of love. It’s when an individual needs to relearn how to live [his/her] life again. For most people, after a period of disorientation, there is a reorientation. Where we reconstruct the self and discover reserves of resilience and autonomy that will carry with us forever. Disorientation is a kind of creative destruction from which something huge and important will take root. It’s reconstructing the edifice of the self with an iron scaffold. Disorientation is what it means to mature. It’s when we learn to stand on our own 2 feet and meet the world as an individual.
Jonny Thomson also has a website: Jonny Thomson – Mini Philosophy
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