First, for those of you who don’t know what a “narc” is, let’s address that. A “narc” in this context is a narcissistic spouse. Click here for a more detailed definition of narcissism.
If your spouse (husband or wife, for that matter), is an entitled and self-absorbed jerk, then you know why (or at least have a very good idea as to the possible reason(s) why).
In no particular order:
- He/she likes his house and doesn’t want to lose it.
- He/she is either:
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- an entitled and self-absorbed jerk who believes he/she is an exception to the rules and who gets upset when he/she doesn’t get what he/she believes he/she deserves; or
- an entitled and self-absorbed jerk who believes he/she is a victim if you want to sell the house and divide the equity between each of you.
- It costs him/her nothing to get angry over the prospect of a) losing the house in divorce; and b) you getting a portion of the equity value of the house when it’s sold.
- By getting angry (and because it costs him nothing to be angry), you might capitulate to he/she demands.
There you go. That’s all there is to it.
BUT even if your spouse (husband or wife), is NOT an entitled and self-absorbed jerk, he/she might still be angry over the prospect of losing the house in divorce, especially if your spouse is the innocent part in this mess and can claim, in essence, “If it weren’t for you wanting to end our marriage and get a divorce [or if it weren’t for you single-handedly ruining our marriage such that divorce is necessary or more than warranted], I wouldn’t be losing the house and neighborhood and lifestyle I’ve worked hard for and love.” That kind of anger is perfectly understandable.
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